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“I Don’t Know” My Secret to Avoid Responsibility for Past-Behavior
Sometimes I can feel the tension that will come if I engage and wrestle with certain questions.
Someone may ask me a question that causes me to pause and consider a part of life that I had buried in vague memory.
So, I avoid all of it by giving the perfectly believable answer of “I don’t know.”
Why did you try to create your own Wikipedia page while in college?
“I don’t know.”
Why do you think she broke up with you?
“I don’t know.”
Do you think you’re holding onto anger towards that person who wronged you?
“I don’t know.”
When certain questions are asked that lead to murky, possibly compromising waters, my first reaction is to back away and leave the question unanswered by pretending that I have no insight.
In reality, the mental struggle that takes place is one of deciding whether or not I am willing to delve into unsure, complicated, and potentially (often likely) embarrassing or humbling memories of past behavior and decisions.
The question doesn’t even have to come from another person. Often, the question is one I ask myself.
